Start now – there are things you can do

  • Join a support group – by sharing experiences within a group you can learn new ways of coping
  • Read – study the subject. We can suggest books that you might find helpful
  • Don’t focus on food, talk about other things
  • Don’t put the blame on the sufferer – this only makes things worse
  • Use “I” statements rather than “you” statements – for example, “I am upset” rather than “you are making me get upset”
  • Listen – spend time listening, avoid speaking about your own experiences
  • Remember, you are an individual too and have your own life. If the person with the eating disorder seems to be controlling your life as well as theirs, take time out and try and see why this is happening
  • Encourage openness within your family or social group – look at the rules and norms – are they positive? Are they too rigid?
  • Treat the anorexic/bulimic person with respect and stand back, allowing them to take responsibility for their actions
  • Accept and love the person for what they are and not what you would like them to be of who you think they ought to be

Remember: RECOVERY IS POSSIBLE; it takes time and hard work. Don’t give up.